Breathing, Mental Rehearsal and the third thing that you can do to help and to begin to cultivate resilience and more healthy belief system, is you can tap into resources.
This is always better done effectively when you close your eyes and visualise. Because you can be sure that there is a track running at the background all the time saying “You’re no good..you can’t do this.. you’re eggs are no good.. you’re just never going to be a mother…you don’t deserve it”.
You’re gonna have all these stuff going on at the background, and that’s what’s creating the pain of your everyday life. You’ve got to battle it, daily. It has to be consistent.
Let’s close our eyes again for a second… closing your eyes, again getting into a nice breathing pattern. Because when we are on a fight or flight state we tend to breathe all up in the chest and a little bit panicky, but instead it’s going to be more of a release breathe (slow exhale), breathing in good stuff (inhale), breathing out the negative. Remember in that state, we can really begin to build on our inner resources.
With your eyes closed now, I would like to invite you to just think about a time in your life when you overcame something that you didn’t think you could. When you overcame a huge obstacle and at that time it seemed like a huge mountain to climb, and at that time you felt like you were never ever going to achieve this and you achieved it and more.
Really breathe in to that feeling now, breathe up all good stuff.. and then breathe out again, just let that feeling flow within your body now, notice where in your body you feel that good feeling, let it spread like a wave through your whole body and just let that feeling encompass your entire body and soul.
And then open your eyes when you are ready.