Is there a physical space in your house for your baby? If not, then how can you go about making that happen? It’s a really lovely practise to actually make a space in your house that you can create like a little project around it, where it is going to be the baby’s room.
Some people don’t like to do that because they are worried that they’re getting their hopes up and their hopes may be dashed. But your hope is up anyway, so, why not be really intentional and symbolic about this, and go make a physical space dedicated to this baby you so desire.
Also, make mental space. If you are always driving, always trying and there is no space in your head or your body for a baby, then it’s time to do something different. Neuroscience tells us: “We have the same 60,000-80,000 thoughts that we processed per day”. Can you imagine that?
But the thing about that is, everyday most of the time they are the same thoughts being regurgitated over and over again. And so when we do that, we are telling ourselves stories about “our inability to have a baby”, or “how it’s never going to happen”, “maybe I don’t deserve to be a mother”. For me, it was “my body is useless”, that’s what I used to say to myself and they were the thoughts that were going around my head.
There was never any quiet time to listen to my intuition, there was never any time to actually listen to my inner self on what really wanted to come forward and just from a personal perspective when I did actually finally conceive my daughter, I remember getting a very strong message because I finally slow it down. I stopped at the treadmill of doing..doing..doing, and when I finally slow it down, I got a message – a full body experience of my baby saying to me “Just wait, I’m coming”.
It gives me goosebumps all over, it still does when I think about it because it was only a making space and stopping my daily treadmill, my running everywhere, making things happen. When I slow it down, and did something different, thought something different, said something different thought affirmations that I was giving myself.
Slowing down and doing something different but also listening to your intuition and what messages want to come forth, but you have to make space for that.